Reflect Your True Self

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© 2017 Mirissa D. Price: A Dental Student, A Writer, A Journey to Share.

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Sunshine on a Cloudy Day

It’s a rainy day, and yet it is filled with such sunshine – The Sunshine Blogger Award to be specific. Thank you Didi’s Art Design for adding this light to my week and for sharing such warmth on your blog. Be sure to check out all poetic thoughts that Didi’s Art Design has to offer!

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The rules of the Sunshine Blogger Award are simple:

Rules:
1) Thank the person who nominated you in a blog post and link back to their blog.

2) Answer the 11 questions sent by the person who nominated you.

3) Nominate 11 new blogs to receive the award and write them 11 new questions.

4) List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post and/or on your blog.

So for Didi’s Art Design’s 11 questions:

1) What are your hobbies?

I am a dental student by day and a writer by night; and in the in-between, you’ll find me on the comedy stage! It’s a busy life, and I love it!

2) What is most important to you?

Laughter carries me through every moment of every day.

3) How can we achieve harmony between nations and people?

Peace begins within each of us, and from there, we can share peace with others.

4) What kind of improvements you suggest for your our society?

There are oh so many opportunities for growth in our world, and they all stem from a growth in not only random, but intentional acts of kindness.

5) What is your biggest wish?

What a hard question! I am so caught up in the beauty of this moment that my mind can’t seem to land on something more I would want in my day!

6) What was your biggest mistake in your life?

There have been only endless opportunities before me, opportunities for growth and opportunities to learn.

7) If you could bring a new subject to a school, what would it be?

I have done just this! Crafting Yourself brings lessons in self-efficacy and resiliency to the hands of middle school children, all through the creativity of art!

8) How do we end poverty in our world?

We begin to create equity in our world by creating equal opportunity in each domain of our world: health care, education, employment, and more.

9) What book do you find most interesting?

There are so many options, but I do love the concept of “If on a winter’s night a traveler.”

10) What is the meaning of friendship to you?

Friendships is laughter and joy. It is sharing moments of both pain and hope with someone you trust, and exploring this world with someone who can share with you a new way of seeing things.

11) What does, “Man know thyself,” mean to you?

This question is truly wonderful, because each day that I grow, this sentence means something new. I simply can’t wait to see what this phrase will mean to me in the morning.

My Nominations for The Sunshine Blogger Award are:

  1. Safarii + Co
  2. Poeta da Garrafa
  3. In a Messy World
  4. Christine’s Collection
  5. Hope Dealer
  6. Written by an amateur human
  7. How to Climb a Mountain
  8. Safira’s Journey
  9. Naturally Nuri
  10. Forged from Reverie
  11. Write Ally! Write!
  12. And YOU! Add your blog url to the comments and share the sunshine with all of us! You most definitely deserve this blogger award!

As for your 11 questions:

  1. What are you most passionate about?
  2. How would anyone know?
  3. Who most influenced the person you are today?
  4. What is one thing you wish you could add to your day?
  5. What is stopping you from adding that in?
  6. What is one thing you could empty from your day?
  7. What would you do with that freed time?
  8. When did you decide to pursue your profession?
  9. What is one thing you love about your profession?
  10. Why are you so good at what you do?
  11. If you closed your eyes and imagined the perfect day, what would you do first?

Happy blogging, and enjoy the sunshine! I can’t wait to see how far this sunshine spreads!

© 2017 Mirissa D. Price: A Dental Student, A Writer, A Journey to Share.

One Lovely Blog

Another day, another reason to smile! Thank you, Ally L. Mare, for the incredible honor of the One Lovely Blogger Award. I encourage everyone to stop by Write! Ally! Write! to get their daily dose of inspired writing.

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The rules of the award are simple:

  • Thank the person who nominated you and link to his/her blog
  • Post about the award
  • Share 7 facts about yourself
  • Nominate 15 people
  • Let your nominees know you’ve nominated them!

So, to get started:

7 Facts About Mirissa D. Price:

  1. I set my mind on dentistry at the age of seven and haven’t looked back since.
  2. I began my journey in writing at the age of 20.
  3. If you looked into my apartment, 90% of the time, you would find me rocking my head and singing aloud to country music.
  4. I come to life in the world of comedy.
  5. I am most passionate about working with children and youth.
  6. I still cannot believe the beauty of a river … with actual water in it! (For a desert girl, this is an incredible sight!)
  7. If I had an extra 24 hours in my day, I would curl up in the corner of a book store and just write and write and write. And then I’d hit the comedy or music scene!

Now, for the most important part:

My Nominations

  1. Tink the Belle
  2. Life’s Fine Wine
  3. Standard Blonde Cat
  4. Writer in Socks
  5. Fabulous with Glitches
  6. Impetuous Afflatus 
  7. Becoming Unstuck
  8. Laura, Honestly
  9. Bello e Bella
  10. A Whistling Caravan 
  11. Elline Andreana
  12. Words in the Light
  13. AND YOU! Because you are one incredible writer with one lovely blog!

These thirteen writers (including YOU) most definitely create ‘One Lovely Blogs’ of their own, and I can’t wait for you to check them all out!

© 2017 Mirissa D. Price: A Dental Student, A Writer, A Journey to Share.

Pulling The Shame Out From Beneath The Foreskin of Rape

On Friday the 13th, so long ago, a girl was shot at a high school. A concert was playing at Red Rocks. And I was the victim of a rape.

As a writer and medical student, I have had the honor of sharing so many stories from patients and friends. I have written the human experience from perspectives so distant from my own. But in a time of need, when I turned to Google for understanding and for a voice of reason, I didn’t find what I was seeking.

Instead, I found responsibility, and I found a pen; I found myself tasked with writing the voice of reason and humor, compassion and understanding that I so desperately sought that lukewarm December night.

The following article is the original submission of my story to YourTango, unedited to remain authentic to my voice. Please read forward with humor and care, and remember how brightly a survivor now smiles this Sexual Assault Awareness Month.

41 Thoughts You Have After A Sexual Assault That No One Ever Talks About

Because it’s time we pull the shame out from beneath the foreskin of rape.

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‘If you are a victim of sexual assault, you are not alone.’ Or so I heard about ten too many times after my sexual assault. ‘Others have been through worse.’ ‘So many men and women overcome this trauma.’ ‘You survived.’ As if rape is a rite of passage into womanhood! 

Newsflash: IT ISN’T!

But what I didn’t hear, what no one would talk about, were the thoughts that come after the assault. And I’m not talking PTSD, panic in the mind and body after. Yes, those exist. Yes, they interfere with sex and self-esteem and life in general. And yes, so many people are out there sharing guidance for those issues, myself included. But what about the sexual thoughts that follow rape? And the thoughts of empowerment? What about every single aspect of life that this criminal has just thrown upside down as carelessly as he threw my body against the car door?  Where are the advice columns for that?

Because, guess what?  What he did to me was NOT okay; in fact, it was a crime! And yet, in losing control, in seeing sex through a demon’s eyes and from behind the blade of a knife, I came to be empowered. I came to speak my mind. And I came to a decision to finally share the 41 thoughts you have after a sexual assault that no one ever talks about. Because, let’s face it: the crime and not the reaction is the real shame.

1. They’ll call you a ‘survivor.’ They will say you are ‘so strong’ for fighting back, for getting away.  They will say ‘there are so many who have been through this kind of trauma.’ And ‘you will get through.’ But they won’t know how to make the ‘getting through’ feel safe. They won’t leave space for thoughts that feel weak. Or dirty. Or gloriously wrong. They won’t acknowledge the part of the assault that wasn’t sexy but made you grow in sexuality. Because, thought number 1, you did grow in sexuality.

2. And listen, you don’t need to hear how ‘so many’ men and women have been through this kind of experience. It’s not a shared gateway to adulthood. It’s not a rite of passage. It’s a crime, plain and simple.

3. Because if rape is a rite of passage, a human experience, where does that leave sexual assault? A half-rite of passage, a half-human’s existence? You are almost a woman, but sorry, you escaped a moment too soon. I mean, seriously.

4. Though, sometimes, you do think about the people who went through more, who dealt with more.

5. And, let’s be honest. You’re selfish. Because you know how hard it is to explain to someone that you are a virgin, but you have been sexually assaulted, but no, you have not felt a penis inside you.

6. Not that it matters, because when you do finally land naked on tossed sheets, you’ll forget where you are. You’ll go back to that night with that rapist with his penis.

7. His penis never really does leave your body. Every stroke of your skin, every touch of a man. Your body remembers.

8. And sometimes, that memory feels good. Too good.

9. So you just say it: an assault isn’t something to ‘get over’ or ‘through.’ It’s over. And you and him are most certainly through. But he never leaves you, or your bed, or your sex life.

10. You have never told your partner, though, that you’re in a threesome– you, your lover, and your memory of a rapist.

11. As long as you feel safe. But when you feel weak, when you feel tired, that’s when the memories matter. When the memories hurt.

12. And you have to be honest.

13. And you have to grow strong. Because of your rapist. You have to.

14. Remember, he called your body beautiful. You are beautiful. He called you ravenous. You are ravenous. And why the hell shouldn’t you believe him? Whatever his motive, you choose to believe he was honest.

15. With his feelings. With his needs. Even when you pretend to not understand what went through his mind, you know every crevasse of his needs.

16. So, despite the lies you told to escape, despite the lies you told to protect yourself in the moment, in the aftermath, you choose to be better than your rapist. In EVERY way. You choose to be even more honest.

17. And release the secrets verbally. Because they really do harbor shame, much the way the foreskin of his uncircumcised penis harbored STIs.

18. Not that you were brave enough to get tested for STIs.

19. But there is victory. In remembering. Even though your assailant may have taken your body from you, he didn’t take your memory.

19. So now, there’s a girlfriend who knows every detail of this sad little man’s dick. And you have to wonder if for every rapist, there’s a therapist or friend who knows the details of his dick (or her vulva to be open to options).

20. And, if so, can we make a dick-tionary so police can help find these demons. Or, at least, as a reference guide so women can know one when she sees it.

21. Not that rapists can’t change. Because people can change. You sure have changed.

22. I mean, you still put on the same clothes from that night. You liked the top too much for a slimeball *no pun intended* to ruin it for you. And it was on sale.

23. But, oh boy, has your mind opened to what sex is. And what it isn’t.

24. And why ‘sexually active’ and ‘sexually protective’ are two very different things. When you go asking a doctor for birth control.

25. “I’m sorry, but ‘I want to be ready for when I am raped,’ wasn’t on the intake form as an option, and sexually active doesn’t quite cut it.”

26. Not when the first penis you saw was on a cadaver. Cold and pale, devoid of blood. Sliced open, straight down the urethra.

27. And the second was on a rapist.

28. In fact, calling rape ‘sexually active’ just has a bad aftertaste. There is nothing active about it. There is nothing intentional about lying helpless with a man’s grip around your throat.

29. But you often choose to keep those thoughts to yourself. Because a victim is supposed to be strong. A victim is supposed to move forward. A good victim is supposed to be quiet and meek.

30. And forget that! Here’s the inspiration you needed to hear back in the days after: Speak your mind. Say the truth. Accept every and any little thought you may have.

31. About rape. About sex. About your sexuality.

32. Oooh, but to put yourself and sex in the same sentence. It takes a long time to return to that place. Just a long enough time.

33. And when you get to that place, you know so much more about yourself.

34. And just how much of a right you have.

35. To say no.

36. And say no again.

37. And shout no to the world.

38. Until you are ready to say yes.

39. Not that rape is inspiring. Or glorious.

40. But you know, surviving can be just a beautiful thing!  

If you or someone you know is the victim of sexual assault, please do reach out to your local authorities and support system for help. And never fear putting pen to paper to share the words you needed to hear!
You can find the wonderful edition drafted in collaboration with the editors of YourTango by clicking HERE. Please share this piece with those who need it, and carry forward with humor and care.

Mirissa D. Price is a nighttime blogger and sometimes poet on a mission to spread pain-free smiles. She offers tips for wellness and sprinkles of humor at mirissaprice.wordpress.com, and has publications in The Huffington Post, KevinMD, and more. Though a doctor once said she would live in a nursing home for life, confined to a wheelchair, crippled by pain, Mirissa instead chose to live passionately. Now, as a 2019 DMD candidate and a future pediatric dentist, Mirissa is, in every way, spreading pain-free smiles, writing through her nights, and, once again, walking through her days.

Stay up to date with Mirissa’s writing at mirissaprice.wordpress.com and be sure to follow @Mirissa_D_Price on Twitter and Facebook. You won’t want to miss what she says next!

© 2017 Mirissa D. Price: A Dental Student, A Writer, A Journey to Share.

This article was originally published on YourTango.

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Your Guide To Living A Valued Life

Explore your values where A Smile Blooms.

Stop by my Etsy shop for you newest Self Discovery Workbook! The Self Discovery Workbook for living a valued life is designed to provide encouragement, motivation, and tools to help you discover and embrace your values – at home, at work, at school. This workbook is designed with you in mind and will provide the motivation and insight you need to transform your life to one glowing in value.

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WHO IS THIS WORKBOOK FOR?

You! This workbook is ideal for use at home or with a counselor. The exercises are of value to everyone – those seeking to reassess their values, those at a crossroads in life, those with mental health struggles, such as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, grief, and more, those looking to explore their identities. Whatever journey you are on, this workbook can help guide you!

PAGES INCLUDED IN THIS LISTING [15 total]

[1] Journal Cover
[1] Instruction Page Affirmation
[1] Identify Your Values
[1] Values Worksheet
[3] Build Your Valued Life Exercise, 3 pages
[1] Value at Work
[1] Making a Change
[1] A Needed Pause Meditation and Worksheet
[1] Readiness for Change
[3] Extra Journal Pages to Explore Your Thoughts
[1] Back Cover

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HOW TO BUILD-YOUR-OWN JOURNEY

1. Purchase your very own A Smile Blooms Self-Discovery workbook. Fill it out, work with a counselor or loved one, and return to the exercises as your life changes and your values transform.

2. Customize your journey by checking A Smile Blooms regularly for new and improved workbook exercises. The garden is blooming inspiration daily.

3. Get involved in the journey by letting me know what kinds of workbooks would most help you! And be sure to check out the refrigerator magnets and other gifts that can bring inspiration into your daily life and straight to the heart of your home.
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**PLEASE READ**
This is an Instant Digital Download – you will not receive anything in the mail. Upon your purchase, you will receive a link to download your 15 unique workbook pages.

FORMAT/SIZE
This Journal is standard US Letter Size (8.5 x 11 inches) and is in PDF format. Adobe Acrobat is a free software program that will allow you to open PDF documents on your computer. Copy & paste the link below onto your URL browser to download Adobe Acrobat:
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PRINTING
This Journal is standard US Letter Size and should be printed on standard US Letter Size Paper. When printing, make sure the paper size is set to Us Letter, and make sure to scale to 100% (don’t scale to fit page).

TERMS OF USE
This Journal is copyrighted and is intended for personal use only. You can reprint pages as many times as you’d like, as long as they are for your personal use. Please do not resell or redistribute to others.

REFUNDS
I cannot offer refunds on digital files. Once I send you the files, the sale is final. But I can and will do everything possible to make sure you are happy with your order. If you have any problems, I will work with you until I resolve the issue.
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DISCLAIMER:
I, Mirissa D. Price, am not a licensed mental health professional nor am I claiming to heal, cure, prevent or treat any medical/emotional/mental conditions with the provided materials. A Smile Blooms is created to encourage and support you on your journey through life. Please seek professional help and guidance as needed. And remember, asking for help is a strength!

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Thank you for welcoming me on your incredible journey!

CLICK HERE to head straight over to my Etsy shop, A Smile Blooms

© 2017 Mirissa D. Price: A Dental Student, A Writer, A Journey to Share. These journals are copyrighted and intended for personal use only. Reselling is not allowed without obtaining prior written consent from the owner.