I approve of this message

It’s tempting to look out for approval.

We were taught to do so ever since the first grade. We studied for good grades, sat with arms folded for respect from our teachers, and eagerly awaited that next star-shaped sticker for our prize boards.

We did everything we were supposed to do, and looked out for the praise. In a context of operant conditioning, we learned how to behave and how to garner respect. And when we made mistakes, we looked in apology to those supporting us, and tried again.

But we were never similarly untrained.

No one ever gave out star-shaped stickers for NOT seeking approval. No one ever handed out extra candy for letting our self-drive and self-acceptance be enough. Few dared to tell a teenager that the only opinion that mattered was from the reflection in the mirror, not when it came to the day-to-day choices in life. It is much easier and so much more predictable as a caregiver, after all, to stay in control of the world and the people around us.

It’s not that we don’t all want our friends and family to grow strong and independent. On the contrary, we couldn’t imagine a better outcome for our loved ones.

Yet, it’s easy to forget

we as humans don’t naturally know how to look to ourselves for approval. We as humans don’t readily break the patterns by which we were trained. Have you ever tried to break a burdensome habit? It’s hard work! And it takes a lot of time, attention, and awareness of the problem. Not too many of us will turn to that hard work without some external factor pointing out with a big flashing arrow that how we are operating is no longer working.

But with so many resources out there – quotes and the like – reminding us of the value of self-approval and self-direction, you can be sure you are not alone in carrying this trained habit to adulthood. The market simply doesn’t spew out supply without a proportional demand.

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Of course, self-approval has its risks.

When you start to give yourself the approval you seek, you may make some mistakes. And you may have to own up to those mistakes – there is no longer someone to hide behind. The mistakes are softened, of course, because you are aware of the hard day you are having and you understand the sources of that choice. You are responsible for and understanding of your actions.

AND you are empowered by the freedom to choose what comes next. No one can push your head to a slump, and no one can take from you the pride of your smile. At a beautiful level, you are in control of the positive and negative outcomes. Everything you need comes from within, and everything you are is imperfectly perfect.

Everything you are is good.

And everything you can become is stunning, because only you can set the limits on your potential.

But don’t think I expect that you change this trained habit in one day. Instead, let’s try for one minute to make choices without approval, and to applaud those choices on our own. If it’s hard, that’s okay. We can try again in a later moment. Little by little, day by day, you can build to a life where you rejoice at the smile of another, yet garner pride from the approval you give to yourself.

In this moment and moving forward, you are your own greatest advocate.

© 2017 Mirissa D. Price: A Dental Student, A Writer, A Journey to Share.

 

 

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Embrace All That You Are!

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Are you … a writer?

a poet?

an artist?

unique?

You bet you are! And now is your time to own it!

© 2017 Mirissa D. Price: A Dental Student, A Writer, A Journey to Share.

Sunshine on a Cloudy Day

It’s a rainy day, and yet it is filled with such sunshine – The Sunshine Blogger Award to be specific. Thank you Didi’s Art Design for adding this light to my week and for sharing such warmth on your blog. Be sure to check out all poetic thoughts that Didi’s Art Design has to offer!

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The rules of the Sunshine Blogger Award are simple:

Rules:
1) Thank the person who nominated you in a blog post and link back to their blog.

2) Answer the 11 questions sent by the person who nominated you.

3) Nominate 11 new blogs to receive the award and write them 11 new questions.

4) List the rules and display the Sunshine Blogger Award logo in your post and/or on your blog.

So for Didi’s Art Design’s 11 questions:

1) What are your hobbies?

I am a dental student by day and a writer by night; and in the in-between, you’ll find me on the comedy stage! It’s a busy life, and I love it!

2) What is most important to you?

Laughter carries me through every moment of every day.

3) How can we achieve harmony between nations and people?

Peace begins within each of us, and from there, we can share peace with others.

4) What kind of improvements you suggest for your our society?

There are oh so many opportunities for growth in our world, and they all stem from a growth in not only random, but intentional acts of kindness.

5) What is your biggest wish?

What a hard question! I am so caught up in the beauty of this moment that my mind can’t seem to land on something more I would want in my day!

6) What was your biggest mistake in your life?

There have been only endless opportunities before me, opportunities for growth and opportunities to learn.

7) If you could bring a new subject to a school, what would it be?

I have done just this! Crafting Yourself brings lessons in self-efficacy and resiliency to the hands of middle school children, all through the creativity of art!

8) How do we end poverty in our world?

We begin to create equity in our world by creating equal opportunity in each domain of our world: health care, education, employment, and more.

9) What book do you find most interesting?

There are so many options, but I do love the concept of “If on a winter’s night a traveler.”

10) What is the meaning of friendship to you?

Friendships is laughter and joy. It is sharing moments of both pain and hope with someone you trust, and exploring this world with someone who can share with you a new way of seeing things.

11) What does, “Man know thyself,” mean to you?

This question is truly wonderful, because each day that I grow, this sentence means something new. I simply can’t wait to see what this phrase will mean to me in the morning.

My Nominations for The Sunshine Blogger Award are:

  1. Safarii + Co
  2. Poeta da Garrafa
  3. In a Messy World
  4. Christine’s Collection
  5. Hope Dealer
  6. Written by an amateur human
  7. How to Climb a Mountain
  8. Safira’s Journey
  9. Naturally Nuri
  10. Forged from Reverie
  11. Write Ally! Write!
  12. And YOU! Add your blog url to the comments and share the sunshine with all of us! You most definitely deserve this blogger award!

As for your 11 questions:

  1. What are you most passionate about?
  2. How would anyone know?
  3. Who most influenced the person you are today?
  4. What is one thing you wish you could add to your day?
  5. What is stopping you from adding that in?
  6. What is one thing you could empty from your day?
  7. What would you do with that freed time?
  8. When did you decide to pursue your profession?
  9. What is one thing you love about your profession?
  10. Why are you so good at what you do?
  11. If you closed your eyes and imagined the perfect day, what would you do first?

Happy blogging, and enjoy the sunshine! I can’t wait to see how far this sunshine spreads!

© 2017 Mirissa D. Price: A Dental Student, A Writer, A Journey to Share.

One Lovely Blog

Another day, another reason to smile! Thank you, Ally L. Mare, for the incredible honor of the One Lovely Blogger Award. I encourage everyone to stop by Write! Ally! Write! to get their daily dose of inspired writing.

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The rules of the award are simple:

  • Thank the person who nominated you and link to his/her blog
  • Post about the award
  • Share 7 facts about yourself
  • Nominate 15 people
  • Let your nominees know you’ve nominated them!

So, to get started:

7 Facts About Mirissa D. Price:

  1. I set my mind on dentistry at the age of seven and haven’t looked back since.
  2. I began my journey in writing at the age of 20.
  3. If you looked into my apartment, 90% of the time, you would find me rocking my head and singing aloud to country music.
  4. I come to life in the world of comedy.
  5. I am most passionate about working with children and youth.
  6. I still cannot believe the beauty of a river … with actual water in it! (For a desert girl, this is an incredible sight!)
  7. If I had an extra 24 hours in my day, I would curl up in the corner of a book store and just write and write and write. And then I’d hit the comedy or music scene!

Now, for the most important part:

My Nominations

  1. Tink the Belle
  2. Life’s Fine Wine
  3. Standard Blonde Cat
  4. Writer in Socks
  5. Fabulous with Glitches
  6. Impetuous Afflatus 
  7. Becoming Unstuck
  8. Laura, Honestly
  9. Bello e Bella
  10. A Whistling Caravan 
  11. Elline Andreana
  12. Words in the Light
  13. AND YOU! Because you are one incredible writer with one lovely blog!

These thirteen writers (including YOU) most definitely create ‘One Lovely Blogs’ of their own, and I can’t wait for you to check them all out!

© 2017 Mirissa D. Price: A Dental Student, A Writer, A Journey to Share.

Your Guide To Living A Valued Life

Explore your values where A Smile Blooms.

Stop by my Etsy shop for you newest Self Discovery Workbook! The Self Discovery Workbook for living a valued life is designed to provide encouragement, motivation, and tools to help you discover and embrace your values – at home, at work, at school. This workbook is designed with you in mind and will provide the motivation and insight you need to transform your life to one glowing in value.

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WHO IS THIS WORKBOOK FOR?

You! This workbook is ideal for use at home or with a counselor. The exercises are of value to everyone – those seeking to reassess their values, those at a crossroads in life, those with mental health struggles, such as depression, anxiety, eating disorders, grief, and more, those looking to explore their identities. Whatever journey you are on, this workbook can help guide you!

PAGES INCLUDED IN THIS LISTING [15 total]

[1] Journal Cover
[1] Instruction Page Affirmation
[1] Identify Your Values
[1] Values Worksheet
[3] Build Your Valued Life Exercise, 3 pages
[1] Value at Work
[1] Making a Change
[1] A Needed Pause Meditation and Worksheet
[1] Readiness for Change
[3] Extra Journal Pages to Explore Your Thoughts
[1] Back Cover

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HOW TO BUILD-YOUR-OWN JOURNEY

1. Purchase your very own A Smile Blooms Self-Discovery workbook. Fill it out, work with a counselor or loved one, and return to the exercises as your life changes and your values transform.

2. Customize your journey by checking A Smile Blooms regularly for new and improved workbook exercises. The garden is blooming inspiration daily.

3. Get involved in the journey by letting me know what kinds of workbooks would most help you! And be sure to check out the refrigerator magnets and other gifts that can bring inspiration into your daily life and straight to the heart of your home.
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**PLEASE READ**
This is an Instant Digital Download – you will not receive anything in the mail. Upon your purchase, you will receive a link to download your 15 unique workbook pages.

FORMAT/SIZE
This Journal is standard US Letter Size (8.5 x 11 inches) and is in PDF format. Adobe Acrobat is a free software program that will allow you to open PDF documents on your computer. Copy & paste the link below onto your URL browser to download Adobe Acrobat:
https://get.adobe.com/reader/click

PRINTING
This Journal is standard US Letter Size and should be printed on standard US Letter Size Paper. When printing, make sure the paper size is set to Us Letter, and make sure to scale to 100% (don’t scale to fit page).

TERMS OF USE
This Journal is copyrighted and is intended for personal use only. You can reprint pages as many times as you’d like, as long as they are for your personal use. Please do not resell or redistribute to others.

REFUNDS
I cannot offer refunds on digital files. Once I send you the files, the sale is final. But I can and will do everything possible to make sure you are happy with your order. If you have any problems, I will work with you until I resolve the issue.
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DISCLAIMER:
I, Mirissa D. Price, am not a licensed mental health professional nor am I claiming to heal, cure, prevent or treat any medical/emotional/mental conditions with the provided materials. A Smile Blooms is created to encourage and support you on your journey through life. Please seek professional help and guidance as needed. And remember, asking for help is a strength!

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Thank you for welcoming me on your incredible journey!

CLICK HERE to head straight over to my Etsy shop, A Smile Blooms

© 2017 Mirissa D. Price: A Dental Student, A Writer, A Journey to Share. These journals are copyrighted and intended for personal use only. Reselling is not allowed without obtaining prior written consent from the owner.

Finding My Voice

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For me, writing is all about finding my voice and sharing it.  Often unfiltered.  Sometimes abridged.  So in moments when my voice seems too quiet, I pick up a pen, and there my voice is.

Where do you find your voice?  What brings that little nugget of wisdom out?  

Tell us in the comments!  We can’t wait to hear from you!

© 2017 Mirissa D. Price: A Dental Student, A Writer, A Journey to Share.